Selfish Love

I have the understanding that we are most selfish when we are young; and as we grow older life requires us to be more selfless.

Yes, breaking up with Dan was selfish of me. But this is the time in my life when I need to be selfish and make decisions for me; not do what I think others want me to do or expect me to do. If I don't do what I need to do for me, then I become a people pleaser. I can say from experience that being a people pleaser, or at least trying to be a people pleaser, is not a possible task. You absolutely cannot please everyone; and so I am not going to try, it's not my job to try and please everyone...or anyone for that matter. I am only to please God.

1 Corinthians 13:5 says this: Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps not record of wrongs.

Though my decision was selfish, it was not self-seeking. My decision(s) have been guided by the Lord, for I am merely seeking the Lords will for me at this time in my life.

In the words of Dan: I always held our relationship in an open palm for the Lord to take if he willed. Now, I must do my best to make good on that belief.

Whether or not love is blind, I do not know. But I do know: love is not self-seeking.